Being a millennial in a world where divorce rates are skyrocketing, marriage rates are decreasing and the relationships we are exposed to through media are sickening, Feb. 14 should be a breath of fresh air to all of those with hope for a successful love life.

However, with all of the negative pressures of the world surrounding us, where relationship goals are far-fetched and unrealistic, it’s time we switch up our typical hyper-romanticized routine and make Valentine’s Day meaningful.

Yes, chocolates, flowers and romantic dates are thoughtful gestures, but what happens when you take time to do the unexpected? Charming messages and movie nights are the usual notion for Valentine’s Day, but do they actually fulfill your Valentine’s desires? We endure these annual Valentine’s Day motions without actually enjoying the warm-hearted holiday. Valentine’s Day is supposed to show your loved ones how much they mean to you, so does being traditional genuinely show you care?

Individualize your Valentine’s Day by doing something out-of-the norm that you’ll both enjoy. It does not have to be expensive; forget the forced 5-star dinners, boring movie nights, chocolates and flowers, and take your partner somewhere that makes their heart throb, like on a hike, to a museum, to a vineyard or maybe even a funky vintage shop.

Romance can come in any shape, form or size. Who says we have to be boring traditionalist and endure the pains of this holiday?

Unique acts of kindness are the best ways to show your partner how much attention you really pay. We are all different individuals with different likes and interests, so it no longer makes sense for everyone to buy the same gifts, go on the same dates or send the same expected “I love you” text messages. Go out of your way by doing the little things, buy a book by their favorite author, get their favorite hair product, create a mixtape featuring your favorite songs, just do something to show that you know more than the basics about your partner.

There are countless things we can do that do not require much effort to show our loved ones how much we truly care. A little effort and less cash can take you a long way this Valentine’s Day. Do the unexpected and see the differences. Be adventurous, have fun and stop forcing the romance.